On Our Best Behaviour

In this book, Elise Loehnen explores the hidden psychological and social programming that women face from a young age. She frames the modern pressures women feel through the lens of the “Seven Deadly Sins,” arguing that women have been historically conditioned to suppress their natural desires—such as ambition, anger, and appetite—in order to be seen as cooperative and “good”. The author breaks down how these ingrained traits inadvertently prevent women from establishing healthy boundaries, achieving full autonomy, and finding true internal peace. It serves as both a cultural critique and a practical guide to unlearning these restrictive habits so women can live more authentic, fulfilled lives.